Since this blog is mostly for my friends and family to learn about and enjoy my journey, I will try to answer those questions that are frequently asked. Some of them are questions that peole are afraid to ask and others are just of interest.
1. Why don't you just get married?
A: If it was that easy, I would have been married a long time ago. The truth is I don't know when/if I will get married. I hope I meet the right man soon but so far I haven't. I also don't believe I need to wait to get married to be a good mom. I am devoted to my son and will do whatever it takes to make sure he grows up healthy.
2. Do you have a support system to help you?
A: Yes. I am blessed to live near my parents and brother. I also have several great friends in the area that have agreed to help when I need it. I am not going on this journey alone and am very grateful for all of the support I have received.
3. Why is the process so long?
A: It is long because of the large amount of paperwork, wait for referral and wait for the courts to do their thing. I wish it was faster but understand why it is not. I will admit I am not always as patient as I would like to be but I am trying.
4. What are you doing for childcare?
A: Since I work second shift and some weekends, I have decided to hire an au pair. She is a wonderful woman from South Africa who will arrive in April. I am really looking forward to learning about her and her country.
5. How can you afford all of this?
A: The same way any other family does it. I have to set priorities and make sacrifices. I also can't say thanks enough for those people that have helped me so far. My parents, friends and co-workers have been wonderful!
I am sure there are other questions out there and I am happy to answer them. I just request that people don't ask questions about my son's story. I feel it is important for him to learn it first and be able to share it when he is ready. I will post his picture on the site after I am sure he is officially my son.