Five and a half months ago, M moved in. M had been the only child in his home and Jacob had mostly been an only child here (except for a brief time when E was here). M had no idea how to be a little brother and Jacob had no idea what being a big brother meant. Not only did they have to learn to share attention but they also had to learn how to share toys. M was only 15 months old and had never really learned to play with other children or interact with them.
I am amazed at the progress these two boys have made in a very short preiod of time. M will often go to Jacob when he needs help with things like getting a drink of water (I keep cups in the bathroom where Jacob can reach the sink and pour water). Jacob often runs over to comfort M when he is upset and will almost always give him a big hug when we pick M up from daycare. It has been a lot fun to watch these "only" children become brothers. M's future in our family remains uncertain. He is still a foster kid and human services is still hoping to reunify him with his mom. But for now, M and Jacob are great brothers. They love each other, compete with each other, watch out for each other and fight with each other. I couldn't be happier.